2.
Get
Real – The fear of the fear can be worse than the actual anxiety. Because something
awful has happened we can live in fear of it happening again when in reality there
is no foundation for that. FEAR is a False Expectation Appearing Real.
3.
Take
Time Out – If you feel overwhelmed with the physical or emotional effects
of the anxiety or panic, take time out to calm down. It is impossible to think
clearly when your heart is racing or your palms sweating. Take yourself away from
the situation, for example if in a meeting excuse yourself to go to the
bathroom or if driving park up safely. Get some fresh air or take some deep
breaths or use a relaxation exercise.
4.
Try
visualisation - Find a safe quiet place and close your eyes and imagine
that you are in a calm relaxing place, a sunny beach or favourite holiday destination
and allow the relaxing environment to help you to relax and feel calmer.
5.
Embrace
It – Each time you feel the anxiety coming on don’t fight it but allow it
to pass over you like a wave and it will pass more quickly. Trying to fight it
or stop it pushes it down and it can come back tenfold. It is not helpful to bottle
it up as it needs to be released.
6.
Face
the Fear – Avoiding fears and anxiety only makes them worse. If you feel anxious
or panicky then face the fear, for example, if you panicked getting in the lift
then get in the lift the next day and practise relaxing whilst standing in the
lift.
7.
What
is the worst that can happen? – Many people when having a panic attack feel
that they are going to die or are having a heart attack. It is unlikely that
this will happen, just tell yourself it is anxiety or panic and face the fear.
8.
Talk
about your anxiety - Talking to someone who you think may understand and be
supportive can help to lessen the burden of your anxiety. You may find other
people have similar worries and anxieties to your own and this helps us to feel
more normal. We are all human after all and have the same worries and concerns.
9.
Don’t
expect perfection – nothing in nature is perfect, both your feet are not
the same size as you probably have one foot longer or wider than the other. So
why put such stress on yourself? Do the best you can and remind yourself that’s
what you’re doing. Nobody’s life is perfect not even the celebrities!
10.
Reward
yourself for your successes – Yes! Even if they are small ones such as
making that phone call you have been dreading or removing that spider from the
bath without screaming. Treat yourself to a meal out, book or cinema ticket or
something else as a reward.
Author Margaret Cook
Counsellor and Hypnotherapist
www.allin-the-mind.com
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